As parents we tend to take our children's feeling and emotions for granted just because they are "Our Children" and "they'll understand". That is so far from the truth. If we tell them we are going to do something, take them somewhere, buy them something with specific dates involved, you bet to believe, they won't forget. Better yet, they will be a constant reminder in your ear...most children are. For those who have children that say very little or may not be a nag, doesn't make your word/promise any less important.
Do your best not to break your word/promise unless it's an extreme emergency...that, they will deal better with than if you just "plain ol forgot" or changed your mind and nothing important is taking place of that which you promised. A child disappointed in you begins to lose faith and trust in you....then, who else can they trust?
Remember: Never tell your child to "do as I say not as I do". Instead, let your words be proven by your actions, and be the "Role Model" and "Example" they need in their life that they can model after. Make sure if you keep your word that your children also keep their word to you in following the standards that you set for them.
IMPORTANT: PARENTS! THIS MESSAGE APPLIES TO CHILDREN WHO ARE OBEDIENT AND DESERVING. Ex: If you plan to buy your child a car and he/she just crashed yours......STOP! THINK ABOUT IT!
Ex: If you plan to furnish your child's first apartment once they finish the college you paid for and they drop out.......STOP! THINK ABOUT IT!
The extra perks you give to your children should be conditional and done through positive reinforcement.
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